As we give of ourselves to our patients or clients, it is so easy to get lost or out of focus. What started out to be our strength turns on us and becomes our enemy. That strength, if we are in this business, is usually compassion. But compassion has its boundaries, if it is not fed and nurtured. Without the self care and supervision we all need, a subtle but overwhelming exhaustion can set in. Compassion-fatigue is something that often just sneaks up and surprises us with its vengeance.
It is very important to keep our own self-care as a priority. And it is very important to continue our own healing journey utilizing the support of others who know the process. I am sure you all know the importance of support and supervision, and in many cases therapy. But maybe you have "de" prioritized that.
Use this little reminder, that it is perfectly normal to take on the issues of our clients. But if we take them on and do not let them go, then they become our burdens. And if you are reading this right now...and feel like you have too much on your plate, then take the time to find yourself a specific support system, a specific supervisor, or a specific therapist who can help you release those secondary traumatic feelings.
I am in the process of developing a compassion-fatigue prevention component to this web site. In the meantime if there is another way I could support you through your journey, I would be glad to do that through online contact.
You are a light in this world, and a safe place for someone to come to for healing. Please don't ever neglect yourself. Your ability to give and to care for others will always be enhanced when you provide your own protection, self-care and nurture.
